Dreading Your First Dance as Husband and Wife? |
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Let’s admit it – many of us dance more like David Hasselhoff than Fred Astaire.
When it comes to that first dance as a married couple, many newlyweds are filled with absolute dread. After all, many of us have not slow danced since Senior Prom – and we certainly don’t want to revisit that experience.
Even if you or your beloved has two left feet – you shouldn’t have to fear your first dance as husband and wife.
First Wedding Dance
The worst thing you can do is nothing. Take advantage of the time leading up to your big day by practicing a few steps. There is no shame in watching instructional dance videos online or even taking a lesson or two with a private instructor. The confidence a single lesson will give you, not to mention the embarrassment it can spare you, will be well worth the expense.
Also, remember that your wedding band (or dj) is your friend. Their job is to make sure that you and your guests have a blast and they will be more than happy to make sure that you look good on the dance floor. Make sure you communicate exactly what you want from them. Do you want everyone cleared from the dance floor for the first dance or would you rather your guests be there with you? Want them to cut the first dance song short? No problem. The more you plan ahead with your wedding performer the better off you will be.
Finally, you should feel free to get creative with it. Check out our related blog post; Wedding Dance Lessons – Dancing With the Stars for fun tips on planning a “Flash Mob”or another unique and memorable dance that will make your big moment one to look forward to rather than dread.
What ways have you used or have seen used that helped the newlyweds feel comfy on the dance floor?
 Marta Segal Block has been studying weddings for years. She is the Editorial Director of GigMasters.com, the number one event entertainment booking service. GigMasters is thrilled to announce their new wedding section filled with info about wedding entertainment! Come visit and learn how you can win $500 in free wedding entertainment.
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I think a great first dance can completely change the tone of the wedding reception for the better! A few dance lessons definitely help couples feel more confident on the floor and give couples a more “grown-up” look (no more High School prom sway!) A tip: take dance lessons at least one month before the wedding. As the wedding day approaches, schedules get busy and stressful.
Even if you are a decent dancer, I feel it’s awkward regardless. Two things made it much easier for us…
One, halfway through the song, we planned for the DJ to invite the crowd to join in on the dancing. It’s pretty boring typically (unless you’re really, really good), and after a minute or two, I think people were happy to see/do something else. This was something we discussed with the DJ the week of the wedding after seeing two other couples do it earlier. Great last minute change of plans!
Two, give yourself an out. The DJ said if we wanted to end the song early, just give him a wink or nod and he would fade to black and keep the night rolling. If you are comfortable and feeling good, then maybe you don’t need ot use it. But if you feel things dragging, get anxious, or just need to sit down, it’s great to know you’re not stuck…
Sorry to take the pessimistic side of the First Dance, but I think there are just some people, no matter how much practice and planning they put into it, will never enjoy it. Advanced planning and forethought can make it far less scary, and maybe you’ll actually enjoy it!
You know what’s more awkward? Mother dancing with son. Is it me, or does anyone else find the parent dance to be weird and maybe just a little creepy. I love my son, but dancing a slow dance with him, was, well, a little strange. He picked a very nice song and we made a good time of it though.
I think Matt has the right idea – having the DJ, MC or bandleader invite the crowd to join in is the way to go…unless you have a killer routine worked out!