{"id":12417,"date":"2014-04-10T09:00:15","date_gmt":"2014-04-10T13:00:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.topweddingsites.com\/wedding-blog\/?p=12417"},"modified":"2014-04-09T12:04:28","modified_gmt":"2014-04-09T16:04:28","slug":"her-right-hand-woman","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.topweddingsites.com\/wedding-blog\/bridal-party\/her-right-hand-woman","title":{"rendered":"Her Right-Hand Woman"},"content":{"rendered":"

One of your best friends just got engaged. You couldn\u2019t be more excited for her! Now she wants to meet up with you for lunch at your favorite hang out\u2026 could it be that she is going to ask you to be a bridesmaid?? YES! Of course you say yes when she asks you – you wouldn\u2019t dream of attending just as a guest because you need to be standing right beside her!<\/p>\n

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Anyone who has ever been a bridesmaid wants to be the best bridesmaid for her bride. Ideas start running through your mind of what you will do in preparation for the big day immediately after agreeing to the task. But, what does being the best bridesmaid truly entail? What did you just sign up for?!<\/p>\n

If there is only one thing that you take away from this blog post, it is this:<\/p>\n

Being a bridesmaid is not about you. It\u2019s about making it easy and enjoyable for the bride!<\/b><\/em><\/p>\n

Does this mean that you have to be the bride\u2019s slave until the wedding day? Nope! But it does mean that this isn\u2019t your time to shine – your role is to support the bride. Now, I don\u2019t want you to think that being a bridesmaid isn\u2019t fun at all because when I was a bridesmaid I had a blast – dress fittings, engagement parties, bridal showers, craft nights, hair and makeup trials, the list went on and on with fun girlie adventures. But I\u2019ll just start with the basics.<\/p>\n

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  1. Support the bride! (Emotionally and physically)<\/b> I put this one first because it is the most critical part of being a bridesmaid. There is a lot that goes into planning a wedding that can make the whole experience somewhat stressful and what every bride loves to know is that she can count on her bridesmaids to help her out along the way. She is going to need emotional support when she gets the jitters, and she will need some \u201cgirl power\u201d for all those late nights sealing\/stamping envelopes. She\u2019s going to want your valued opinion on the color of the linens and when she asks everyone \u201cwhich invitation do you like better?\u201d She wants you on TEAM BRIDE because she loves you and trusts that you won\u2019t let her walk down the aisle looking like a mess J So, be preemptive when it comes to the upcoming wedding tasks and ask her if there is anything you can do to help lighten the load.<\/li>\n
  2. Go to as many wedding related appointments as possible.<\/b> This includes the bridal shower, the engagement party, the dress fittings, the bachelorette party, etc. She\u2019s already expecting you to be there because your one of her best friends so unless there\u2019s an emergency, you\u2019d better be there! There are always things you can help out with during these events too like making sure she has everything before she leaves or handing out pencils for the games. Chances are you might be asked to do something specific for these events as well, like \u201ccan you put together a playlist for background music at the engagement party?\u201d To which you respond; \u201cNo big deal, sure thing I can!\u201d Why? Because that\u2019s what you\u2019re there for, ladies.<\/li>\n
  3. Don\u2019t create drama. <\/b>This is a big one. You know what\u2019s stressful? Wedding planning. You know what makes it 233965384 times worse for everyone? Drama. Don\u2019t do it. There are ways of making your opinion known without causing any undo drama between the rest of the wedding party or the family. One time as I was the Maid of Honor, a bridesmaid mistakenly sent me a text complaining about the rest of the bridesmaids and me. I\u2019m not sure who it was meant for but I\u2019m glad it didn\u2019t get sent to the bride! There is no reason to complain. If you are uncomfortable with something or if someone is acting out of line, go to the Maid of Honor first and see if she can handle it. Her job is similar to yours and might be able to handle the situation without involving and stressing out the bride.<\/li>\n
  4. Do everything on time.<\/b> If the bride has given you a task or has let you know of any deadlines that there are, make sure that you meet the deadlines. You certainly don\u2019t want to be that one bridesmaid who two weeks before the big day announces that she hasn\u2019t gotten her dress fitted or didn\u2019t even start to look for the right shoes. EEK! Plan ahead because the earlier your \u201ctasks\u201d are finished the more you can help the bride out even more.\u00a0 \"Picture4\"