When it comes to weddings, it seems almost every single detail is quantified. The engagement ring must be 3 month\u2019s salary\/the cost of bridesmaids dresses shouldn\u2019t exceed a cost per head\/the cost of the honeymoon must be twice a normal vacation, etc. While all of these seem to be conventional wisdom, they are, in fact, nothing but outline\u2019s to be modified for specific occasions. If you\u2019re gifting money to your friends or family member for their wedding, sometimes you have to wing it. Other times, there are indicators that you can look for to help make sure you don\u2019t look like the cheap kid.<\/p>\n
Research The Venue<\/strong> 1. If it\u2019s in a really nice venue with open bar, assume $125+ per head. Know Your Friends<\/strong> Know Your Personal Finances<\/strong> The simple answer is there is no exact formula for giving money. With a little bit of intuition and self evaluation you can come up with a finite number somewhere between ruining your reputation and being known as the godfather of gift. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" When it comes to weddings, it seems almost every single detail is quantified. The engagement ring must be 3 month\u2019s salary\/the cost of bridesmaids dresses shouldn\u2019t exceed a cost per head\/the cost of the honeymoon must be twice a normal vacation, etc. While all of these seem to be conventional wisdom, they are, in fact, nothing but outline\u2019s to be modified for specific occasions. If you\u2019re gifting money to your friends or family member for their wedding, sometimes you have […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":107,"featured_media":375,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6173,3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-374","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-wedding-etiquette-questions","category-wedding-gifts"],"yoast_head":"\n
\nIf the wedding is in a ritzy hotel or fantastic museum, you probably don\u2019t want to be the ones giving $50. There is a saying to give roughly the cost of the cost for your meal. If you don\u2019t know how to quantify how much your friend\u2019s are spending, I\u2019ll break it down for you really easy:<\/p>\n
\n2. If it\u2019s in a nice place but you know your friends and they negotiated and got a deal, assume $100 per head.
\n3. If it\u2019s in a more casual space or VFW (nothing wrong with that, we all gotta eat), assume $50 per head.<\/p>\n
\nWe all got \u2018em. The pretentious ones that will second guess your gift and forever label you by how much you give them. These are the ones where deep down inside I curse but openly don\u2019t want to be known as \u201cthe guy who ruined everything\u201d when I didn\u2019t give enough. I always add $50 for these people. If they are kind hearted and honest, decent people they get a Norman Rockwell card with a sentimental message and the appropriate amount. Yes, nice guys always finish last and weddings are no different. Just watch Bride-zilla\u2019s. <\/p>\n
\nJust because there is an etiquette or rule of thumb, doesn\u2019t mean you have to go broke for your friends. <\/p>\n