{"id":51125,"date":"2019-10-31T19:52:46","date_gmt":"2019-10-31T19:52:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dev.topweddingquestions.com\/blog\/?p=14598"},"modified":"2019-10-31T19:52:46","modified_gmt":"2019-10-31T19:52:46","slug":"why-cant-the-groom-see-the-brides-dress-before-the-wedding","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.topweddingsites.com\/wedding-blog\/wedding-traditions\/why-cant-the-groom-see-the-brides-dress-before-the-wedding","title":{"rendered":"Why can’t the groom see the bride’s dress before the wedding?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Well, he can, unless you want to follow \u201ctradition\u201d of course. But, where does that tradition come from and what does it mean?<\/p>\n

Ye Old Traditional Way<\/h3>\n

Arranged marriages used to be the norm. <\/b>And that meant that you didn\u2019t even see your betrothed until the bride started walking down the (cough, cough <\/i>– \u201cmarried at first sight\u201d). So, that idea evolved into it being labeled \u201cbad luck\u201d for the groom to see the bride in her dress before the wedding<\/b>.<\/p>\n

Others say that because these arranged marriages were actually \u201cbusiness\u201d deals between families, some fathers didn\u2019t want the man marrying his daughter to see her and back out before the deed was done<\/b>. Maybe they decided they didn\u2019t like her or she wasn\u2019t attractive – keeping the bride away was the answer to this fear.<\/p>\n

Our Opinion<\/h3>\n

So what do we say?<\/i> Do what you want!<\/b> Feel free to keep or ignore traditions<\/a> that don\u2019t fit in with what you and your partner want. If you\u2019re superstitious<\/a>, then stay away and have the big reveal happen in front of all your family and friends.<\/p>\n

Saving the moment for the ceremony also means sharing the experience with everyone in attendance, which can be a truly memorable moment no one will soon forget. Not to mention the photo and video opportunities for when the bride and groom first lock eyes. It\u2019s an added layer of specialness when it happens.<\/p>\n

If not, see each other, have a private moment together (it may even calm any nerves you may have!). For everything else, let\u2019s ask the experts!<\/p>\n

Other Expert Opinions<\/h2>\n

\"Why

Easy Weddings<\/h3>\n

\u201cA little knowledge is a dangerous thing. This tradition actually goes back to a time when arranged marriages were the norm. Marriages were arranged by families, and only after everything was agreed would the lucky couple get to meet each other.<\/p>\n

However, this brought with it some risks, and it was not uncommon for some men to back out at the last minute after seeing the woman they were to spend their lives with<\/b>.<\/p>\n

So how to deal with this issue?<\/i> Perhaps consult the proposed couple on whether they found each other attractive?<\/i> Of course not, that would make far too much sense! Instead, the couples were often forbidden from meeting each other until the day of their wedding at their ceremony<\/b>. It\u2019s rather difficult to run out of your own wedding when everyone is already there!<\/p>\n

Although the tradition of arranged marriages has largely fallen by the wayside, the superstition that seeing the bride in her dress before the big day has lived on<\/b>.\u201d – Easy Weddings<\/a><\/p>\n

Bridal Guide<\/h3>\n

\u201cOrigin: <\/b><\/p>\n

During the time when arranged marriages were custom, the betrothed couple wasn\u2019t allowed to see each other before the wedding at all. The wedding symbolized a business deal <\/b>between two families (romantic, huh?), and a father would have been pleased for his daughter to marry a man from a rich, land-owning family.<\/p>\n

But he also feared that if the groom met the bride before the wedding and thought she wasn\u2019t attractive, he\u2019d call off the wedding<\/b>, casting shame onto the bride and her family. Therefore, it became a tradition that the bride and groom were only allowed to meet at the wedding ceremony so that the groom did not have the opportunity to change his mind.<\/p>\n

And that veil the bride wears?<\/i> Its original purpose was also to keep the groom from finding out what the bride looked like<\/b> until the last possible minute when it was too late to back out of the transaction.<\/p>\n

Today: <\/b><\/p>\n

Although arranged marriages are no longer common, most brides still don\u2019t want their groom to see them all done up before the wedding. Many believe it makes the day more exciting and memorable. However, some couples feel they\u2019ll be more relaxed if they see each other for just a few minutes before the ceremony.<\/p>\n

The added bonus is that you can take your formal pictures pre-ceremony when everyone is freshly done-up. It\u2019s completely up to you and your groom. Talk about it before the big day arrives and find out what makes the most sense for you.\u201d – Bridal Guide<\/a><\/p>\n

Wedding Ideas<\/h3>\n

\u201cKeep it Secret<\/b><\/p>\n