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Bridesmaid Costs. What It Costs To Be In A Wedding<\/h1>\n

Bridesmaid Question: I’m going to be a bridesmaid in my friends wedding and I\u2019m not sure if I should be expected to pay for certain things. The bride says the bridesmaids are supposed to pay for the bridal shower, but her mother is going to pay for it and we are only expected to help setup. Since we don\u2019t have to pay for it, she wants us to pay for her limo for the wedding. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Are we supposed to pay for the bridal shower, and since we aren\u2019t is it fair for her to have us pay for her limo instead? The bride said anyone who doesn\u2019t pay for the limo can\u2019t ride in it. So theyre may be a few people in the bridal party not riding with the rest of the bridal party. The bridesmaids were also given a list of topics regarding our appearance at the wedding such as: hair costs, dress costs, she would like us to get manicures and pedicures but it\u2019s optional, she would like matching shoes but optional also. Should we also be giving her a wedding present as well as a bridal shower gift? And I read somewhere the bride shouldn\u2019t give us a gift like jewelry that is mandatory to wear to the wedding. Is that also true?<\/p>\n

Nancy Tucker:<\/h4>\n

First off, the mother should not be hosting or paying for the bridal shower. Secondly, the bride should not ask you to pay for the limo, this is totally inappropriate. Bridesmaids normally give a gift at the bridal shower as well as at the wedding. Many times the bridesmaids go together for a shower gift. It is not mandatory but brides often give jewelry to the bridesmaids that they want them to wear for the wedding.<\/p>\n

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So, if the mother shouldn\u2019t be hosting and paying for the bridal shower, then are the bridesmaids required to host and pay? A bridesmaid, the maid of honor and I all told the bride we don\u2019t have enough money to pay for her limo and she was offended and told her family and the rest of the bridal party we don\u2019t want to pay for it and now they all think we are not good friends. What should we do?<\/p>\n

Rebecca Black, Etiquette By Rebecca:<\/h4>\n

This all sounds so high school. And, it also sounds like the bride should grow up a bit before the wedding. After all, she will have to take care of herself soon. Jeez. The shower is optional. She may not request or demand one. She also shouldn\u2019t be expecting any of you to pony up fund just because she doesn\u2019t want to pay for something that is her responsibility, like transportation to the wedding and reception. Jeez again.<\/p>\n

Donna, Wedding Queen:<\/h4>\n

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And, how ridiculous that this bride is expecting others to pay for her party. It is her responsibility to pay for her wedding limo. We have an article about bridesmaid\u2019s responsibilities, and none of these things are your obligation. Just say no and maybe for the shower get her an etiquette book. Geeze.<\/p>\n

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