{"id":7682,"date":"2014-12-20T19:48:27","date_gmt":"2014-12-20T19:48:27","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.topweddingquestions.com\/blog\/?p=7682"},"modified":"2014-12-20T19:48:27","modified_gmt":"2014-12-20T19:48:27","slug":"heirloom-engagement-ring-etiquette","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.topweddingsites.com\/wedding-blog\/wedding-jewelry\/heirloom-engagement-ring-etiquette","title":{"rendered":"Heirloom Engagement Ring Etiquette"},"content":{"rendered":"

Engagement Ring Etiquette. How Should I Offer a Ring to Daughter’s Boyfriend?<\/h1>\n

My mother has a diamond that she would like to offer to my daughter’s boyfriend to give to her during the proposal. Is this proper etiquette? I’ve heard of grandmother’s giving rings to grandsons, but can she give it to the man who would be giving it to her granddaughter? Actually I would be giving it to him.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Etiquette Guy<\/h4>\n

I have never heard of this being done. It is the man’s token of love which he is giving to his future wife. I think this offer is somewhat inappropriate. It’s akin to someone calling a host and suggesting to them what to serve for dinner. I may just have the point of view of a traditionalist, but there you have it. I hope it helps.<\/p>\n

Wedding Queen<\/h4>\n

I have a different point of view.
\nMy husband died when my kids were babies and I have a\u00a0beautiful\u00a0wedding\u00a0set\u00a0that I plan offer to my daughter’s suitor (for lack of a more contemporary word) if she marries to use as her engagement\/wedding ring. The keyword here is\u00a0offer, I think. I’ll make it known to him that he can choose to give this ring if he likes, or he can buy his own ring. Just don’t put him in an awkward position where he felt he would\u00a0have\u00a0to accept. One thing he will be sure of – my daughter loves the ring!<\/p>\n

Both my kids like the idea. We talked about it recently since my son actually chose to use his grandfather’s wedding band at his wedding last year. He and his wife discussed it and they came to a mutual decision to use the\u00a0heirloom\u00a0ring. If my daughter doesn’t marry, or her boyfriend chose to select his own ring, I’d still give her the ring at some point.<\/p>\n

I think every situation is personal. There really isn’t any clear cut etiquette on this subject that I could locate. Use your own discretion.<\/p>\n

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