[ol][li]My parents are hosting the wedding and reception and paying for the whole she-bang. Should their names go first? [li]My fiance’s mother is deceased, but we want to include her on the invitation. [li]His father has remarried and we all love his step mother. Both his father and stepmother are Drs. [li]My fiance is also a junior who goes by his middle name.[\/li][\/ol]<\/p>\n
How do we word the invitation? The best I could come up with is:<\/p>\n
The parents of
\nMelissa Renee Smith and R. David Jones, Jr.
\nrequest the honour of your presence
\nat the marriage of their children
\non June 17th, 2005
\nat 7:30 pm.<\/p>\n
The Place<\/p>\n
The Address<\/p>\n
Mr. Ronald and Mrs. Karen Smith<\/p>\n
Dr. Robert Jones, Sr. and Dr. Cindy Jones<\/p>\n
The late Judith Jones<\/p>\n
Reception following ceremony.<\/p>\n
Thanks!<\/p>\n
Melissa <\/p>\n
Melissa:<\/p>\n
Only the hosts of the wedding (person(s) paying) are listed on the invitation so it would look like this:<\/p>\n
Mr. and Mrs. R. David Jones, Jr.
\nrequest the honour of your presence
\nat the marriage of their daughter
\n(insert brides full proper name)
\nto
\n(insert groom’s full proper name)
\non June 17th, 2005
\nat 7:30 pm.
\nThe Place
\nThe Address<\/p>\n
You would not mention the grooms parents nor any deceased family members. These names may be mentioned in the wedding announcement which are sent the day of the wedding to those who did not attend the wedding, those who were not invited because of distance and to friends of the bride and groom who were not at the wedding for whatever reason or the announcment that is sent to the newspapers.<\/p>\n
We would like to include his parent’s names on the invitation. His deceased mother was a wedding caterer and she also baked and designed wedding cakes. We thought it would be nice to mention her name somewhere. Couldn’t we do something like this?<\/p>\n
Mr. and Mrs. Smith
\nrequest the honour of your presence
\nat the marriage of their daughter
\nMelissa Renee
\nto
\nMr. R. David Jones, Jr.
\nSon of Drs. Robert and Cindy Jones and the late Judith Jones. <\/p>\n
Of course there are no “laws” surrounding how you word your wedding invitation however to be officially correct by etiquette standards you should not mention the name of a deceased family member and only mention the names of the hosts on the invitation.<\/p>\n
This is NOT an announcement, which is where this information should go, it is an invitation to a gathering that is being hosted by your parents. Your parents are doing the inviting, not your future in-laws. Think of it this way…if you were throwing a party, on the invitation, in the space typically provided as “given by”, would you list anyone other than the people that were giving the party? <\/p>\n
Dear Invitation Etiquette,<\/p>\n
It sounds as if the groom’s parents are co-hosting your wedding so include them. You would mention their names under your parents.<\/p>\n
Mr. and Mrs. Your Parents<\/p>\n
and<\/p>\n
Mr. and Mrs. His Parents<\/p>\n
Please do not mention your groom’s late mother because this is a happy event and mentioning her will cause some of your guests to be sad. You may pay tribute to her with a candle lighting ceremony or by mentioning her in the wedding proram. Please see this post for more ways to honor a deceased family member during your wedding.
\nBest wishes, <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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