When you first started planning your wedding ceremony, you believe that your best friend or your cousin will be the best in the role of your matron of honour. But as time goes by, you realise that they are not doing their “job” well; and therefore you want to kick the off the team. What shall you do in this situation?
To begin with, you should think really hard, in order to see if you are not over reacting. There are many brides, who during the planning of their wedding could get easily pissed off, and as a result you must analyze the situation and see if you are not making a mistake. Talk to your friend or cousin; tell her that her behaviour upsets you and then try to see which is: the next step for you.
I know that you might feel angry with your maid of honour because she has been missing many of your meetings, but you should understand her too. What if her working program does not allow her to be a constant presence at your wedding preparations? You should take every possibility into consideration, before ruining an old friendship.
However, if this problem can not be solved, then you must proceed with the next step; i.e. you must arrange a meeting with her and announce her about your new plans. You should be calm, respectful and caring, because it is best to avoid any fights before your wedding. Otherwise, you will enter your new married life resentful and with negative feelings and this is really bad karma for your wedding. Besides that, you are family (or friends) and you shouldn’t fight.
Anyways, if she wants an answer from you, you could tell her that your relationship has changed and that you have other plans now. If you believe that will hurt her feelings, you should tell her that because of some financial problems you will held a small ceremony; and therefore your sister or somebody else will take her place. She is your friend and she will understand your feelings, the point is that you should really do something if you are not pleased with the current situation.