Wedding planning is, well, let’s call it “uniquely stressful.” Despite the many stresses that come with planning a wedding, you don’t want to look back on this special time and wish you had enjoyed it more and otherwise “experienced the moment” instead of freaking out all the time. With that in mind, let’s take a look at 10 super-helpful wedding advice tips that will ensure you take moment or two to breathe:
1) You’re Going to Argue, Disagree With and Probably Offend at Least One Person
Having a wedding is like throwing a big party, which is stressful enough, except th party is really a huge fancy-schmancy ball that everyone and your mother has expectations and opinions about. Some people will inevitably want to steamroll you in terms of planning, or you might find your fiancé/fiancée has horrendous taste in napkin colors. You might feel bad as you cut people from your guest list or make your wedding party spend even more money on formal clothing, but try to find balance. Yes, the wedding isn’t just about you, but it’s still your day in the end. So don’t try so hard to please every last person–it’s an impossible task, anyway.
2) Indecisiveness is Not Unlike Being Bridezilla
Some people are just indecisive, and if you’re such a person, do what you can to make the necessary decisions and stick with them. Don’t depress your bridesmaids just because you can’t make a decision about their dresses–if nothing else, suggest a color and let them do the rest. Being indecisive is pretty much as annoying as being a “Bridezilla,” so remember to think of everyone around you when having a hard time deciding on something.
3) It’s Okay to Splurge on the Important Stuff
No matter what your wedding budget, this is a very, very special event, so don’t be afraid to splurge on the stuff that matters, whatever that may be to you. There’s plenty of ways to save money while planning a wedding, and tons of information out there, so don’t worry about the whole thing costing you your firstborn.
4) Work With Vendors You Love
Just because a vendor was recommended by your sister or future mother-in-law doesn’t mean you’ll necessarily vibe with that person or staff. And that’s fine. It’s your wedding day, so find vendors you feel are on the same proverbial page as you and enjoy creating a memorable day together.
5) Make Checklists–You Won’t Be Sorry
Make checklists of everything–the types of photos you want and where, lists of what still needs to be done, vendor and photographer phone numbers…you get the idea. Checklists are your friends during the planning process, and will prevent you from flipping out because you forgot something.
6) Skip the Rituals You Don’t Care About
Uninterested in tossing the bouquet? Want to skip the high mass despite being raised Catholic? No matter how traditional the wedding ritual, if it doesn’t matter to you or hold any kind of meaning, skip it.
7) Don’t Go Nuts With the Wedding Registry
It’s easy to get carried away when creating a registry–after all, you’re essentially shopping without having to pay for it! However, you don’t want to end up with a bunch of appliances and various weird objects you’re never going to use, so keep this in mind and pick only the stuff you truly need and want.
No matter how perfectly you planned everything, it’s still an excellent idea to except the unexpected. Having an outdoor ceremony? Find a backup indoor venue in case of inclimate weather. Worried you’ll forget your makeup? Bring a backup bag with you. Murphy’s Law can occur anytime, so plan for craziness!
9) Delegate. And Delegate.
There’s nothing wrong with asking for help, especially if your to-do list is three pages long. Besides, putting friends and family members in charge of certain things makes them feel special and more important in the wedding process.
10) Don’t Skydive the Day Before Your Wedding
The week before your wedding is not the time to try a new sport, go bungee jumping or anything else that’s potentially dangerous. If you want to go nuts on your honeymoon, go for it, but it’s generally a good idea to refrain from unusual activities in the days leading up to your nuptials.
There you have it! We hope these tips help you with the planning and enjoyment of your wedding day. Good luck!