Giving jewelry as a shower gift

I picked out a pretty sterling silver necklace as a gift to an upcoming shower. It’s from Tiffany’s but it is very simple and only $100.

Is it tacky for me to give jewelry and not something off the registry? None of the other kitchen items have been fulfilled, so I don’t want to be the only one giving an all-clad pan.

The invite asked us to bring brunch recipes to make a recipe book for the bride-to-be, but otherwise there was no other indication that this is a kitchen or recipe-theme shower. And I don’t cook at all.

I don’t know any of the other shower guests, only the bride, and I don’t want to “show up” the other gifts. Is it okay to give my gift, which I am pretty happy with?

Nancy Tucker

Although, I cannot find anything written about giving jewelry at a bridal shower, I think it would be highly unusual since the shower is to present gifts to the bride and groom for their married life and home. I feel that it woud be too personal.


Thanks for the reply.

It’s hard for me to decide because I am unfamiliar with bridal shower etiquette. It makes sense that the tradition is to give a gift for the married couple, but my wedding gift is for the couple and I saw this as an opportunity to give the bride a personal gift that she (hopefully) will cherish.

Any insight on my concern about giving a gift that might be considered “nicer” than the other shower gifts?

Rebecca Black, Etiquette By Rebecca

Jewelry is not a proper shower gift. This is something one would give as a birthday present, not anything related to the wedding. Also, I agree that it is much too personal a gift.

Shower gifts are supposed to be less expensive than wedding gifts and should be related to beginning a new life as a married couple–home related items.


After polling a few friends who had bridal showers in the last 2 years, the unanimous response was that they loved getting personal gifts like perfume and while none had received jewelry, they all said that they would have loved receiving it.

So I am going to give the necklace.

Donna, Wedding Queen, President; Top Wedding Sites, Inc

If you ask for advice, we have to provide our best advice as per our professional experiences You can then choose to do whatever you like. But, as Nancy and Rebecca have noted, bridal showers are typically given so the bride can set up house.


I don’t want people to think I don’t appreciate the advice. After careful consideration I decided to break with tradition, but I still value knowing what the tradition is.

Thanks to all those who responded to my post. THis forum is a great resource for information.

Donna, Wedding Queen, President; Top Wedding Sites, Inc

Thank you, nycitygirl. Enjoy the shower. I hope your friend likes her gift.