Do you want to write your own wedding vows, but it seems like a daunting process? Getting started is the hardest part, but the five tips below are helpful guidelines to begin outlining your vows.
1. Discuss with your fiance/fiancée and wedding officiant how you envision your vows. What tone do you want to set? Do you want to design vows with your fiance/fiancée or write vows individually? Whatever you decide, ensure guidelines are in place so all parties are pleased. This will help prevent unwelcome surprises or disappointments.
2. Be honest and sincere. It is important that the vows convey your love for your fiance/fiancée while also reflecting your personal voice. Speak from the heart. Your fiance/fiancée fell in love with YOU, so make sure the vows reflect your true self.
3. This is a toast, not a roast. Wedding vows celebrate the beginning of your new life together and should acknowledge the sacred nature of your commitment. It’s not a chance to audition for Last Comic Standing. Further, wedding vows should not include sad memories or stories of fighting or anger. Focus on the positive and the joys of being a couple. Don’t risk your fiance/fiancée or wedding guests feeling uncomfortable or embarrassed.
4. Allow time for proper planning and practice. Give yourself enough time to develop, organize and rehearse your vows. This will alleviate the stress associated with procrastination.
5. Create cheat sheets. Even if you know your vows by heart, it doesn’t hurt to prepare note cards. Have a copy of your vows available should you lose your place, and give an extra sheet to your maid of honor or best man for safe keeping.