A female guest is a veterinarian. Should her invitation be worded: Doctor Jane Smith and Mr. John Smith? I’ve heard that you write out “Doctor” for medical (does veterinarian count?) and write “Dr.” for Ph.D. Correct?
Yes, you would address the veternarian as Doctor. And, because the woman is the doctor, you would write her name first as you have. Good job.
Professional & Personal Titles for Wedding Invitations
These titles reflect a person’s career or achievements. Retirement from a profession does not exclude them from use of that title. If someone was once a doctor, judge or any of the other professions that allow a special title, they still receive that title. There are no gender differences within professional titles, they are applied to a person regardless of gender or marital status. For example, a married female judge would use the title for a judge, not of a married woman.
In alphabetical order, here is a listing of common professional titles:
Doctor: Only for a medical doctors.
Dr. : Used for non-medical doctors. For example, veterinarians, dentists and people who have earned a Ph.D.
The Honorable: For judges, ambassadors and people who have a career as an elected official.
The Reverend: Used for clergy. If a member of a specific denomination uses a title specific to his position, then it is proper to use that title instead of “The Reverend”.
While not listed individually, unabbreviated military titles are to be used when addressing wedding invitations to those in the military. These titles include “Private”, “Private First Class”, “Sergeant”, “Colonel” and all others. The same goes for people with specific religious titles like “Bishop”, “Rabbi”, “Cardinal” and all others.
If a person does not have a professional title, use the personal title that best matches each individual guest. In alphabetical order, the personal titles are:
Miss: Used for an unmarried female who does not use a married name. If a widowed or divorced woman still uses her husband’s name, her title would be “Mrs.”. Mr. : For for a male guest. Mrs. : Used for a female who uses her married name, or is married. “Mrs.” is the correct title for a widowed or divorced woman who still uses her husband’s name. It is also correct for a married woman who does not share her husband’s last name. Ms. : Never used. The correct title to use is “Miss”, the abbreviated form is not used formally.
Again, a professional title takes precedence over a personal title. There will always be confusion about some guests and the best way to resolve it is to find out directly from them or someone who knows them. Don’t be shy, it is better to ask and do it correctly than remain silent and improperly complete their invitation.