Learn how to deal with self-invited wedding guests
It is not big news the fact that you have full control on your wedding guests list and on your wedding ceremony. But, what if you will have some self-invited guests? You know: those people who out of the blue decide that they must be at your wedding reception. What it to be done in this situation? I mean you must do something, don’t you? Well, stay with us, and we will figure out the answers to these questions together.
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The principal reason why this thing bothers you is due to the fact that you wanted to keep this wedding ceremony private and intimate. Now, that all these people are announcing their presence at your wedding is quite a disturbing thing, don’t you think? If this bothers you so much, then you will have to be frank with these people and tell them the truth.
You should tell them that you have planned on throwing a very small party and therefore it is impossible for you to invite more guests at your wedding ceremony. I understand that it can be quite difficult to speak your mind without preservations, but after all you are not such big friends with these people, so you shouldn’t worry very much.
Anyways, if things are more delicate and let’s say that your step-mother or your groom’s step-mother wants her big family to take part of your wedding reception, then you must handle things with care. If she or your father will pay for them, then you should allow her to have some people invited, in order to feel more comfortable. But if you will be the one who pays, you may mention this problem and state the fact that you couldn’t possibly pay for more guests. In this way, the step-mother will no longer insist and she will accept thing as they are.
I know that some of you might have thought about planning two separate ceremonies, or the big wedding and after this event a reunion with the step-mother’s family. Be very careful, because if you will be planning two separate events for these people, some might think that you consider them unreasonable enough to stay in the same room for a couple of hours.
So, try to find a middle way that will please everyone. You could talk to the step-mother and tell her what is your ideal wedding ceremony and if she really wants you to meet her family, then she should arrange a meeting after the nuptials, when you could all get to know each other. I’m sure that if she is a reasonable lady she will understand your motives.
So, this is how you could keep the wedding guests list under control. Try to be as smooth as possible and do whatever it takes, in order to have the wedding ceremony you have always dreamt of.