maid of honor list

Acting as the Maid or Matron of Honor is a job that comes with a heck of a lot of responsibilities. Not only do you have to wrangle the bridesmaids, plan the bachelorette party and bridal shower, and stay on top of everything on the big day, you also have to act as the bride’s emotional rock. Let’s break down the duties in detail, shall we?

  • Bridesmaid “Leader”: You’re the leader of the pack! Direct the other ‘maids concerning their duties and ensure everyone gets their dresses, go to fittings, find the right jewelry, and so on. Act as the planner for the bachelorette party and bridal shower, and assign tasks to each bridesmaid as needed.
  • Dresses: Help the bride and the bridesmaid shop for dresses; go with the bride to fittings. You may need to learn how to bustle her dress among other things.
  • Pre-Wedding Tasks: Offer the bride your services concerning pre-wedding tasks, including choosing wedding colors, mailing invitations, helping with food planning, and more.
  • Registry: Let everyone know where the bride and groom are registered.
  • Clothing Changes: Help the bride out of her dress and into her honeymoon clothes, and don’t forget to remain in charge of the dress once the wedding is over. Arrange for storage while the bride enjoys her honeymoon.
  • Support: Lend the bride a supportive ear, whether it’s about annoying relatives, venue and catering problems, registry concerns or the marriage in general. Give her what she needs in terms of emotional support, no matter how much she talks about it.
maid of honor checklist


  • Bridal Shower: You’ll want to host or co-host this event.
  • Pre-Wedding Parties: Attend all of them.
  • Bridesmaids: Make certain the bridesmaids get to the rehearsal dinner on time, which may include coordinating traffic. It’s also your responsibility to see they get their hair and makeup done on time for the wedding, have the correct bouquets, and get to the ceremony space.
  • Groom’s Ring: Hold the groom’s ring during the ceremony. The best place for it? Your thumb.
  • Train: Arrange the bride’s train right before the ceremony and just after she arrives at the alter. Bustle as needed.
  • Bouquet: Hold the bride’s bouquet as the couple exchange vows.
  • Marriage License: Sign the marriage license as a witness along with the best man.
  • Hostess: Act as a hostess along with the other bridesmaids at the reception–help everyone figure out where they’re sitting, invite them to sign the guestbook, and so on.
  • Gift Envelopes: Collect gift envelopes and keep them in a safe place.
  • Food: Ensure the bride gets something to eat and drink–make her a plate of food, refresh her drink, instruct the wait staff to keep food warm for her.
  • Dance: Dance with the Best Man following the first formal dance sequence, as well as the other groomsmen and the groom.
  • Toast: Toast the couple after the best man.
  • Emotional Crises: Troubleshoot assorted emotional crises, which generally involve a lot of tissues, hugging and hair-smoothing. And remember to keep the bride laughing!