Who Else Is Bored With The Old Bouquet Toss?

The bouquet toss might provide the most excitement during the reception, but it can also provide some ladies with the most embarrassment of the night. For some, there can be nothing worse than being displayed as the lonely single woman in the middle of a room filled with loving couples who expect them to fight over some flowers. 

With so many people staying single longer and some  simply boycotting marriage altogether, the whole idea of the bouquet/garter toss may seem boring and maybe  a bit outdated. However, that doesn’t mean you have to get rid of the game completely. There is absolutely nothing wrong with tweaking traditions to better fit your needs and the needs of your guests. Not sure where to start?

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Here’s a list of some alternatives to the bouquet toss.

  • Tribute to Marriage: Invite all the married couples to join the newlyweds on the dance floor. Married couples will be eliminated according to the number of years they have been married as announced by the DJ. The newlyweds will be the the first to leave the dance floor once the DJ announces “couples married two hours or less.” This usually gets some laughs. The last couple dancing would be married the longest and winners of the bouquet and garter.
  • Special Flower: The bride will make a speech for each of the girls in the bridal party or a few close friends. During her speech the special friend is presented with one of the flowers from the bride’s bouquet.
  • Teddy Bear Toss: Instead of singling out the unattached men and women, everyone of all ages can participate in this one, though it’s most popular with the kiddies. To play, line up all the ladies/girls on the dance floor as you would for the bouquet toss. The bride tosses the Mrs. Teddy Bear into the sea of ladies. The groom proceeds to do the same with the guys using a Mr. Teddy Bear. If you want to take the game further, the winners of each bear can share a special dance with the bride and groom.  Check out more ways to involve your kids in the wedding reception. Want to get your hands on a teddy bear toss set? Check them  out here.
  • Anniversary Gift: Prior to the wedding,  find out the anniversary and wedding song of each of the couples attending the wedding. During the reception the newlweds will treat the couple celebrating their anniversary closest to the wedding date with a special dance to their wedding song and the bride’s bouquet.
  • Fortune Teller: Tie motivational quotes and fortunes to the garter and flower stems and place them in two different baskets. Invite women to randomly select a flower from the basket to reveal their fortune. Men will follow by selecting a garter  to retrieve his fortune or motivational quote.


Were you bored with the old bouquet toss and garter toss? How did you handle it? I’d love to hear your ideas.


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  1. Top Wedding Sites

    I just read that Kate Middleton during her wedding to Prince William will lay her bouquet at the Tomb of the Unknown Warrior in Westminster Abbey, a grave marker embedded into the church floor which honors anonymous soldiers killed during war. The tradition of British Royal brides using their bouquets as a memorial was started in 1923 by Elizabeth Bowes-Lyon, the Queen Mother.
    A nice sentiment.

  2. haydee9

    as i am looking around for wedding ideas for my own wedding two years from now, I am fascinated with all the wedding ideas and traditions i get to know. The throwing of wedding bouquets originated in England, where the bride tosses her wedding bouquet to run away from the crowd who’s trying to rip up and take the pieces the her wedding dress for them to share her good luck.

  3. Terri

    I’ve actually been to quite a few weddings where the bouquet toss was nixed completely. Sometimes more dance time is much better than stoping all the food and fun to toss a bouquet. Perhaps the whole tradition is fading into the past. And since Kate Middleton seems to be doing without, it may not be long till more brides-to-be follow her lead.

  4. Top Wedding Sites

    Yes, at my son’s wedding his bride presented her bouquet to her mother to honor her for all she had done. It was very sweet.

  5. White Weddings and Events

    The traditional bouquet toss doesn’t seem to have the same excitement as they did 10 years ago. Out of the last 5 weddings I have done, at least 3 of them had a difficult time exciting the single women to want to catch the bouquet. Sometimes I have seen the Emcee struggle to make an event out of it.

    This tradition was actually modernized from the original tradition of throwing the bouquet. It was originally to distract the guests so the bride could get away with her new husband. I believe, as with the older tradition, this one could transform into something more modern. What Kate Middleton plans to do is much more sentimental than the traditional bouquet. However, with this particular wedding, I think they might find some excitement at this miraculous wedding.

  6. Maui Weddings

    In Maui it is traditional for the bride to give her parents a beautiful lei as a thank you. It is old hat in Hawaii, but none the less, very touching and wonderful token of thanks.

  7. Writing By Terri

    I’ve actually heard of one wedding where the groom, with a very extensive dating history, threw his little black back into a crowd of single men. From what I hear, they had no difficulty getting the men excited for that one.

  8. Top Wedding Sites

    I LOVE old hat, especially that tradition which I find to be very sweet. Not a fan of the single ladies all fighting over a bouquet, though.

  9. Meetermai Johnson

    The problem is that some of these traditions continue to put the spotlight on the single people. I don’t think its that big of a deal however and these are all pretty good ideas but I don’t see a need to get rid of the old traditions.

  10. Top Wedding Sites

    Oh, that’s GREAT! But these days, the “little black book” is usually a cell phone – could make a pretty big bump on the head!

  11. Top Wedding Sites

    I’m a single person and I’m not really ashamed of it, it’s my choice to be single! So, I guess for those who are happy to be single, they wouldn’t necessarily want to catch the bouquet and for those who would want to catch it might be embarrassed to be single.

  12. Terri

    I tend to agree. I was never ashamed of being single. In fact, I enjoy participating in the bouquet toss. However, I haven’t exactly decided whether or not I will keep the tradition alive once my big day comes.

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