As we now live in the century of speed we tend to do a lot of things in a hurry and say a lot of things we do not mean, but it is an unwritten rule that this should never apply to the vows of marriage. However, the divorce rate is higher than it has ever been and people fear commitments more and more. Could this be due to the fact that humans have lost their honor and values? Or is it simply because they are unable to distinguish between the feeling of love and plain physical attraction?
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Whichever the case, once you are ready to walk down the aisle and marry someone you should be able to master your words carefully and have them express your feelings as accurately as possible. The moment of the exchanging of vows should be a solemn one the affective charge of it must be felt by each and every one of the attendees. In short, the vows of marriageshould include a short statement of the love you bear your spouse and a commitment to stick together, through good and bad, as long as you both shall live. It does not sound very complicated, does it?
But the meaning of these words is deeper than what you might imagine. The wedding vows are the first step towards a married life that is going to require a lot of hard work, understanding and compromise. They are a declaration of constant empathy that opposes egocentrism and ignorance, a declaration that you will both follow and serve the same purpose for as long as you both shall live.
For those who are also religious the vows of marriage are even more profound than for the rest. For them, the marriage goes beyond the borders of physical life and the wedding vows are the gate towards spiritual unification and blessing.
In a more simplistic view, the wedding vows should at least represent a promise that you will be open to each other at all times and that you will never let things unsaid as the key to a successful marriage is a good communication. And if you are able to declare your love in front of all your guests, then this should be a clear sign that your marriage will run smoothly and the love will not fade along the years transforming you into statistics.