Being the guy in the relationship doesn’t start and end in planning the proposal, choosing the right engagement ring or even in popping the question. It extends into planning the wedding. Planning a wedding is a team effort. Helping your partner plan the wedding will not only keep them from stressing out; it can also improve your decision-making and compromising skills as a couple.
If you are among the rare breed of grooms who want to plan their wedding, then this list is for you. Here are a few do’s and don’ts every groom should know about.
DO voice your opinions
Gone are the days when the bride’s family pays for most (if not all) of the wedding costs. In fact, more and more couples are footing their wedding bill. If you are covering at least part of the wedding cost, it only makes sense that you get a say on where your money goes. Don’t hesitate to share your thoughts or act as the “accountant” to stay within your budget.
DON’T be rigid with your plans
Wedding planning is stressful primarily because everyone wants to fulfill their idea of a dream wedding. If you and your partner don’t see eye to eye when it comes to your idea of the wedding, now is the best time to practice your compromising skills and learn how to make decisions as a team.
DO make a list of your tasks
There are numerous things you have to prepare for: from major items like the reception venue to minute details like what color the table napkins should be. Make a list of wedding tasks you need to accomplish and divide it among yourselves. This way, it’s easier to keep track of your wedding planning progress.
DON’T forget to delegate to your groomsmen
You chose this group of friends for a reason. Your groomsmen are there to support you and help you do your tasks as the groom. When you have too much on your plate, don’t hesitate to delegate certain tasks like finding accommodations for out-of-town family members or ushering guests to the reception. Just don’t forget to thank your groomsmen with cool gifts for helping you out.
DO write your own vows
It’s so easy to find hilarious and heartwarming wedding vows off the internet these days. While it’s perfectly alright to take inspiration from them, it’s never a good idea to copy someone else’s words. There are plenty of online resources to help you write your own vows without resorting to plagiarism.
DON’T forget to take a break
Planning your big day is a lot of work but it should be an enjoyable experience for both of you. When you and your partner start stressing out over every tiny detail, it might be time to take a little break from the planning. Remember: Fairytale weddings are great and all, but what really matters is the commitment you’re making with each other.