More Bridal Shower Etiquette


If you have never attended a bridal shower before, you might have some questions on etiquette do’s and don’ts. Fear not, as we have outlined everything you need to know about planning and attending this special pre-wedding event. Read on, and be enlightened.

Who Hosts?

Bridal showers were traditionally not hosted by a family member, such as the the bride’s mom, sister, and/or future mother-in-law. Since times are a-changin,’ this is no longer a rigid truth, as many moms and siblings throw fabulous bridal showers for the bride in their lives. Bridal showers may also be hosted by the Maid of Honor or another bridesmaid. Planning often falls on several shoulders, namely the bridal party.

Guest List

Guest lists are generally sent out a month to six weeks before the shower. Every shower guest must be on the wedding guest list. Why? The guests are bringing gifts, and it is subsequently not appropriate to invite someone to the shower who is not invited to the wedding. The only exception to this rule is an office shower.


Seemingly-endless shower invite templates are available to choose from, so if planning a shower with the bride feel free to choose whatever is of interest. As far as sending the invites, old-fashioned snail mail is still considered the correct option. Sending emails is not the end of the wedding etiquette world, and is a way to save money, however paper invites are usually best.

Gift Price Range

It is perfectly acceptable to give what you can afford–registries are convenient in this regard, as you have plenty of options to choose from, all of which are set at different prices. The average price range is $25 to $75. Handmade gifts and those passed down from previous generations also work well.


The tradition of the groom showing up with flowers right as the bride is about to open her gifts is just lovely, and one that provides those who have not met the guy the opportunity to do so. Other fun traditions still in place today include making the bride a hat or bouquet with her gift ribbons, and having something old, new, borrowed, and blue present. Feel free to create new traditions, such as passing around photos of the bride’s mother and grandmother on their wedding days.

“Racy” Gifts

“Racy” gifts are not exactly acceptable for a bridal shower–that’s what the bachelorette party is for!

Use these bridal shower etiquette tips to throw a fun shindig!