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When Do You Set The RSVP Date?

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How long before the wedding date should the RSVP date be set??

How long before the wedding date should the RSVP date be set? A month before the wedding? Two weeks? Most of the people who are coming live out of town so maybe that factors into it?? Any help would be appreciated.



Rebecca Black, Etiquette By Rebecca

Dear Date,

Absolutely. A date should be included with the letters’ RSVP. It is your choice of what the date should be. Typically it is 2/3 weeks before the wedding. But, I always advise my clients to make that date much tighter. You will always have some who will wait until the very last minute to respond, so the sooner the better. If you have time, it would be best to make the date at least 3 weeks. 4 weeks is not out of the question. You want enough time to tally the numbers for your caterer.


Don’t make the date of your RSVP any later then 2 weeks before or you may find yourself in trouble. Worse comes the worse, if it gets down to the nitty gritty and you haven’t heard from some loved ones,  call up your friends and family and simply ask if they’ll be attending the wedding.

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