choosing bridesmaids

Choosing Bridesmaids: 5 Questions To Ask Yourself

How To Choose Your Bridesmaids

choosing bridesmaids


Planning a wedding is all about making choices: the dress, the venue, the cake, the music, the décor…perhaps one of the biggest choices is who to have as your bridesmaids. If feeling a bit overwhelmed in terms of who to pick, check out the following five questions to ask yourself and make the decision easier:

1) How Big Will This Wedding Be?

Traditionally, the number of bridesmaids is contingent on the size and type of the wedding. Formal affairs generally call for more bridesmaids, while smaller weddings usually feature small parties, assuming there’s a party at all. While you don’t have to follow this rule exactly, it’s a good idea to keep the bridal party in line with the number of guests at the wedding.

2) What Does My Future Hubby Want?

Your groom is likely to have his own opinions on the wedding party, so talk to him about it as soon as possible. While it’s not a huge deal to have more bridesmaids than groomsmen, you will have to get creative regarding the processional.

3) Will We Be Friends in 10 or 20 Years?

It’s important to have only your closest friends and sisters up there with you, yes? So if debating about those you’ve only known for a short time, or have rocky relationships with anyway, just think long-term and go from there.

4) Is She Bridesmaid Material?

Okay, this question probably seems a bit harsh, however being a bridesmaid comes with responsibilities, and Maid of Honor even more. If she’s crazy-busy with work, is dealing with personal issues and otherwise seems unfit for the job, don’t add drama to your wedding by asking her to be a bridesmaid!

5) Does She Like the Groom?

Bridesmaids are there to be supportive of you on your wedding day and (traditionally) “hold you accountable” to the vows you’re making. This means the women you pick to be bridesmaids should be big fans of the groom! If she’s said over and over again how much she doesn’t care for him, it’s probably a good idea to leave her out of the bridal party.

Hope this helps, and good luck!